February 4, 2026

I’ve suspected for months that I wasn’t getting the full truth about my son. Today, I finally caught them in a lie so obvious, so easily provable, that even they couldn’t talk their way out of it.

The Lie That Changed Everything

This morning started like any other day. My son and I have a video call each day between 10:30 and 11:30 AM—it’s our routine, our connection, our daily reminder that we’re still a family despite the system’s intervention. At 10:22 AM, I received a message from his social worker telling me he was refusing to take my call. He wanted to continue his activity instead, and staff were “respecting his choice.”

My stomach dropped. In six months, my son has never once refused to talk to me. He always ends our calls by saying “I’ll see you on the call tomorrow.” Something felt off, but I tried to stay calm. I messaged back saying I’d still try calling at our usual time—just in case. No answer.

Then came the second message: there had been “confusion” about the visit time. My son thought he was seeing me that morning, not at 4 PM as scheduled.

Here’s where it gets interesting.

When I arrived early to our 4 PM visit, the supervisor mentioned something casually—something the social worker had conveniently left out of her messages to me. At 10:15 AM, he’d received a message that they were running late to our visit. They showed up at the visitation center at 10:30 AM, only to be told the visit was actually scheduled for 4 PM.

Let me repeat that: At the exact moment the social worker was telling me my son was refusing to talk to me, he was actually in the car on his way to see me.

The Documents I Can’t See

The lies aren’t limited to phone calls. Today I attended a school meeting about my son’s educational needs. I learned that a behaviour support plan was created in February 2026 (6 months after removal)—a document designed to help everyone in his life understand and support him better. As his parent, as someone actively working toward reunification, you’d think I’d have access to this information.

I asked to see it.

The answer? I need to submit a Freedom of Information request. A formal government process that takes 30+ days. For information about my own child’s daily care and behavioural needs.

When I pointed out that as his parent and legal guardian, I should have access to information about his support needs—especially since we’re supposedly working toward reunification—the response was chilling: “If you want any records, you’ll have to go through the regular process. But I’m happy to verbally review the record with you.”

Translation: You can hear what I choose to tell you about it, but you can’t see what it actually says.

The Pattern Becomes Clear

My advocate helped me see what I’d been too close to recognize: this isn’t just bureaucratic inefficiency. This is a pattern.

• Six months of supervised access with zero progress toward reunification, despite nothing negative ever occurring during visits
• Refusal to share basic information about my child’s care
• Documented lies about my child’s statements and actions
• A behaviour support plan I’m not allowed to read
• An education plan created without my knowledge or input that I’m also not allowed to read

Each incident, taken alone, might seem like a misunderstanding or an oversight. Together, they paint a picture of a system actively working to keep me in the dark about my own child.

The Real Fear: What They’re Not Saying

Here’s what terrifies me most: In court this week, my son’s father stated that MCFD is only waiting for an FLA order before he can apply for primary residence and take my son to another country. When my advocate advised me to put this in writing and directly ask the agency if this is their plan, I understood immediately why documentation matters so much.

Either way, the answer will be revealing.

It feels surreal to be building a legal case against the very agency that’s supposed to be helping my family reunify. But when the people with power over your child’s placement are willing to lie about what he’s saying and doing, when they block your access to basic information about his care, when nothing you do results in any progress toward reunification—what choice do you have?

Which raises the question: If our visits consistently go well, if there are no safety concerns, if I’m complying with everything asked of me—why am I still being supervised after six months? Why is information being withheld? Why are lies being told?

For Other Parents in the System

If you’re reading this and you’re also navigating child protection involvement, please hear me: Document everything. Every conversation, every visit, every phone call, every promise made and broken. Screenshot text messages. Save emails. Take notes immediately after meetings.

I thought playing by the rules and trusting the process would be enough. I thought if I just did everything right, my son would come home. Tonight I learned that sometimes the system isn’t interested in reunification, no matter what they say. Sometimes they have a different plan entirely, and they’re not going to tell you what it is.

The only protection you have is documentation. The only leverage you have is creating a paper trail so clear that the truth becomes undeniable.

Moving Forward

There’s a court decision coming Friday that could change everything. If my son’s father is granted guardianship, the next step is an application to take my son out of the country. MCFD appears to be supporting this, though I won’t know for certain until I force them to put it in writing.

Six months ago, I believed this system existed to protect children and support families. Tonight, I’m not sure what I believe anymore—except that I won’t stop fighting for my son, and I won’t stop demanding the truth, no matter how many lies I have to wade through to find it.

This blog post reflects one parent’s experience navigating the child protection system. Every situation is unique, and this is not legal advice. If you’re involved with child protection services, please consult with an advocate or attorney familiar with your jurisdiction’s laws and procedures.