October 30, 2025

Introduction

This post shares parts of the letter my lawyer sent to MCFD, a letter that lays out, in detail, the Ministry’s ongoing negligence in my son Bennett’s case. It’s not opinion. It’s not speculation. It’s fact, backed by medical records, professional correspondence, and a documented trail of warnings that were ignored.

For months, I’ve watched the system that was supposed to protect my son instead cause him harm. My lawyer’s letter puts that harm into words that can’t be dismissed or spun. It outlines systemic negligence, medical mismanagement, and the Ministry’s refusal to provide the disclosure they’re legally required to produce.

I’m sharing it because the public deserves to see what accountability looks like when the truth is documented, not whispered. These failures aren’t isolated. They’re part of a pattern. And that pattern needs to be seen, named, and stopped.

The Disclosure Problem

Since Bennett was taken, my lawyer has sent letter after letter demanding full disclosure from MCFD, the complete case file, supporting documents, and the evidence they claim justifies their actions. Months later, we’re still waiting.

Disclosure isn’t optional. It’s a parent’s legal right and the foundation of any fair defense. Without it, you can’t respond to allegations, correct misinformation, or challenge false narratives. Yet MCFD continues to withhold critical records, leaving us to fight blind against a system that already holds all the power.

My lawyer has made it clear: if the Ministry keeps refusing to provide disclosure, this issue will be brought before the court on November 13. The fact that it’s come to this, that a mother has to go to court just to see the evidence used to justify her child’s removal, says everything about how broken this process has become.

The G-Tube Concerns

Bennett’s G-Tube wasn’t some impulsive decision or parental preference, as stated by MCFD. It came after months of medical review, testing, and hospital stays, a team of specialists determined it was necessary to keep him safe and nourished. It’s a lifeline, not a choice.

On September 5, 2025, after his tube fell out, it had to be reinserted in the hospital. The discharge instructions were clear: he needed follow-up with his G-Tube nurse, Christine, to ensure the site healed properly and the equipment remained secure. That follow-up has never been arranged.

Despite written recommendations from the hospital, repeated warnings from me, my RCY advocate, and my lawyer, MCFD has done nothing. No nurse. No appointment. No monitoring plan. Just silence… while a medically complex child’s care plan sits ignored in plain sight.

The risks are serious: infection, granulation tissue, malnutrition, or another surgery under anesthesia if the tube dislodges or heals improperly. Every delay raises the danger. And yet, the Ministry continues to gamble with his health, pretending bureaucracy can substitute for medical care.

Misunderstanding of Medical Roles

One of the most frustrating patterns in this case has been MCFD’s complete misunderstanding of Bennett’s medical team and their roles. His gastroenterologist oversees his overall gastrointestinal health… medications, motility, constipation management, and nutritional balance. But that’s not the same as managing a feeding tube.

A G-Tube nurse specialist is responsible for inspecting the stoma and surrounding skin, monitoring for infection, and ensuring the tube is secure and functioning properly. This is not a minor detail. It’s a distinct medical role that requires specific training and regular follow-up.

Since Bennett’s removal, that follow-up has never happened. No official nurse has been assigned. No inspection has taken place. The Ministry has blurred essential medical boundaries, treating his G-Tube as if it were just another checkbox in a care plan.

Under hospital supervision, or my care at home, this gap never would have been allowed to happen. Both systems ensured constant oversight because they understood what was at stake. MCFD’s negligence here isn’t just a misunderstanding; it’s a dangerous erasure of medical responsibility.

Misrepresentation of Progress

MCFD has been trying to rewrite Bennett’s medical story again… this time by pointing to a short-lived boost in his appetite as “proof” he no longer needs his G-Tube. It’s a dangerous and dishonest narrative.

Bennett’s increased appetite didn’t come from some miracle recovery or sudden change in his condition. It lined up exactly with an increase in his anxiety medication, which is known to temporarily boost appetite in some children. Every doctor involved knows that. Those effects often fade just as quickly as they appear.

His gastroenterologist, dietitian, and the hospital team have all been clear: removing the G-Tube now would be medically unsafe. It would risk dehydration, malnutrition, and another surgery under anesthesia if he regresses… which, given his anxiety and sensory issues, is a possibility.

This isn’t “progress.” It’s wishful thinking dressed up as justification. MCFD is cherry-picking moments of improvement to fit a narrative that ignores medical evidence and disregards the professionals who actually understand his care.

The Bigger Picture

This letter isn’t just about my son. It’s a mirror reflecting a system that fails families like ours every single day. It shows exactly what happens when ministries operate without accountability: departments stop communicating, medical expertise gets ignored, and legal obligations like disclosure are treated as optional.

Every paragraph of my lawyer’s letter documents what too many parents already know… that medically complex children can become collateral damage when bureaucracy takes precedence over care. The gaps aren’t accidental; they’re built into the system. And when those gaps swallow a child’s safety, the people responsible hide behind procedure instead of fixing the problem.

What this letter proves is simple: the harm isn’t theoretical. It’s happening in real time, to real children, under the watch of those who claim to protect them. And unless people start paying attention, speaking out, and demanding reform, Bennett’s story won’t be the last. It will just be one of many.

Call to Accountability

Families like mine aren’t asking for special treatment. We’re asking for what the law already promises… competent, lawful, and compassionate care. The right to transparency. The right to medical oversight that protects rather than endangers. The right for children like Bennett to be treated as human beings, not paperwork to be managed.

This letter is just one of several my lawyer has sent to MCFD, each laying out the same facts, the same warnings, and the same urgent need for intervention. Each one met with silence, deflection, or delay. It’s a pattern, not of misunderstanding, but of avoidance.

Accountability shouldn’t require public exposure or legal escalation. But when a ministry refuses to respond, the only option left is to make the truth visible. Because when institutions stop listening, families like mine will speak louder.

Closing

At the heart of all this is Bennett, my son, my reason for every fight, every document, every sleepless night. His strength has carried me through moments I didn’t think I could survive. He deserves safety, stability, and a system that recognizes his life as worthy of care, not convenience.

Every word of this letter, every file, every dated email exists because I refuse to let his truth disappear into bureaucracy. I will keep documenting, exposing, and naming what’s wrong until accountability is no longer optional.

Bennett’s story isn’t just mine to tell, it’s evidence. Evidence of a system that has lost its moral compass, and of a mother who won’t stop demanding that it find its way back.

Paper trails don’t lie, and they’re the one thing this system can’t erase.

Attachment – The Letter They Ignored

Below is the redacted version of my lawyer’s letter to MCFD, shared here in the public interest. Sensitive information has been removed to protect privacy, but the substance remains untouched. Every statement, date, and fact contained in this document has been verified through medical and legal records.

This letter is evidence of negligence, silence, and systemic failure. Evidence that when families like mine raise legitimate safety concerns, the Ministry’s response is to stall, deny, and deflect instead of act.

Let it be clear: I’m publishing this for accountability. Because truth shouldn’t depend on who has the power to hide it.

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